Jeremy: Alli, I would simply ask what it is about the State that makes its guarantee so convincing.
I’d answer: sheer mysticism. As Randolph Bourne put it:
“Government is obviously composed of common and unsanctified men, and is thus a legitimate object of criticism and even contempt. If your own party is in power, things may be assumed to be moving safely enough; but if the opposition is in, then clearly all safety and honor have fled the State. Yet you do not put it to yourself in quite that way. What you think is only that there are rascals to be turned out of a very practical machinery of offices and functions which you take for granted. … Government on the other hand is synonymous with neither State nor Nation. It is the machinery by which the nation, organized as a State, carries out its State functions. Government is a framework of the administration of laws, and the carrying out of the public force. Government is the idea of the State put into practical operation in the hands of definite, concrete, fallible men. It is the visible sign of the invisible grace. It is the word made flesh. And it has necessarily the limitations inherent in all practicality. Government is the only form in which we can envisage the State, but it is by no means identical with it. That the State is a mystical conception is something that must never be forgotten. Its glamor and its significance linger behind the framework of Government and direct its activities.”
(This may be a more belligerent answer than fits the tone you’re trying to set, but I think it has the recommendation of being true. The question is how best to disabuse people of the lingering mysticism of the State. I think part of the answer has to do with the right sorts of arguments to make and the right sorts of conversations to have, as you’ve discussed here. But I also think that a lot of the answer is as much a matter of aesthetics, imagination, etiquette, and a bunch of other stuff that needs to be addressed through means other than dialectical reasoning.)
LB: Well, I think we are all “trained†by threat of force. That’s how parents raise their children, to a certain degree. Watch how children act when there are no limits and consequences applied in the home. Its nuts.
Besides endorinsg what Jeremy said, I’d also like to add that I’m not at all convinced, at least not by the evidence that I’ve been given so far, that (1) beating children is necessary as a means to establish “limits and consequences,” or (2) that the sorts of “misbehavior” that children often engage in when they aren’t beaten are actually anything worth worrying about in the first place. (A lot of the so-called “problems” only look like problems if you take for granted what you’re trying to prove — e.g. that children need to act deferentially to their parents, need to obey every demand promptly, shouldn’t be assertive about what they want, etc. Generally speaking, people who want to prove a point by referring to the rearing of children need to do a much better job in making explicit just what sort of “problems” they have in mind when they say that rearing children too laxly causes problems.)