Joe, I don't want to be too high-handed about this, but I can't really find much of anything interesting to discuss in your unsourced judgments about what seems "believable" or "unbelievable" to you off the top of your head, or based on your quick scans of mass media news stories or the textual corpus of popular novels (?!). The numbers that I mentioned in that passage do come from a couple of much-discussed and much-reviewed empirical studies. (In particular, the numbers on male perpetrators come from Koss's study on American college students in the mid-1980s, and the numbers on female victims come from Tjaden and Thoennes's large-sample study of men and women in the US conducted in the late 1990s, which are cited with some discussion in the footnotes. These sources are imperfect and aging social-scientific studies; certainly not eternal truths written in letters of fire. But they are serious studies within a decent-sized research literature, and both their results and the methods used to get those results are extensively discussed both within the articles themselves (which I cited in the essay) and also in secondary literature such as Robin Warshaw's book <cite>I Never Called It Rape</cite> (1994). I don't know where you get your number of ~90,000 rapes committed in 2008; although my best guess (please correct me if I'm wrong) is that the number comes from the FBI's number for "forcible rape" in its "Crime in the United States" (CIUS) report for 2008. Is that correct? If so, then you need to keep in mind, first, that CIUS reports are based on extrapolations from statistics reported by police departments that participate in the FBI's Uniform Crime Reporting (UCR) program. The number is therefore not an estimate of the number of rapes committed in the United States in 2008. It's an estimate of the number of rapes reported to the police. But virtually all the research on sexual violence since the 1980s has demonstrated that police reports are an extraordinarily unreliable source for information about the incidence or prevalence of rape: repeated social science and public health studies on sexual assault have shown that somewhere around 90% of all sexual assaults are never reported to the police. Also that there is an important difference, which you seem to be skipping right over, between numbers that have to do with one year incidence, and numbers that have to do with lifetime prevalence. We can talk about some of these issues if you want, but in all honesty I think if you want to discuss them intelligently it is going to be more important that you take some time to read some of the background literature that I'm citing, and to talk about the virtues and defects of the studies themselves (certainly they have both). Not just riffing on how intuitively believable or unbelievable the result seems to you, without any consideration of the evidence or argument cited from which those conclusions were obtained.
Now, if you don't think that fears about the possibility of sexual violence significantly shape the day-to-day attitudes and behaviors of many women, I can only suggest that you talk to some women you know (about, e.g., what it feels like to walk home alone at night, just to take an obvious example). Or failing that, you could at least read some of the chapters of Brownmiller's book — especially the four chapters toward the end of the book — which do talk at great length both about day-to-day anxieties, adjustments and conversations, and also actually about the treatment of sexual aggression and rape in cultural products such as novels, art, film, etc.
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